Some of the ways we may be tempted to limit our transition “for others”.
Hidden Attachments to the past
Getting real with our own relocalization and “transition” can be difficult, even scary, for the people we care about. That's stressful for them and for you. Almost all folks transitioning to a more sustainable way of life face this conflict to some degree, and for many it's a prime limiting factor in what we allow ourselves to do. The result is our relocalization efforts take paralyzingly long to happen in a time when we don't have a great deal of time. Or its wings are clipped limiting our flight or stopping it altogether.
Here are some of the ways we may be tempted to limit our transition “for others”. Does any of this look familiar?
There's a strong alliance to Team Family, Team Country, Team Workplace, to not letting the team down! These alliances sit in the background and we give them little conscious attention even as we bump up against them when we consider changing the status quo. They slow us down or stop us altogether.
Up against that is our own perception, one that might be overwhelming, that real change is coming. I’m sure you know it! It's a perception that may be intellectual, formed by the inevitable mathematics of expanding resource use in a finite world, an intuitive hunch that’s become gobsmackingly obvious, the result of years of study - or just something that’s become self-evident in your own journey of understanding. However it comes, when you see it you see it and there's no going back to unseeing it.
This loyalty to those we love, seemingly pitted against being true to ourselves, is another way of describing the demands of the past up against those of the future.
What do you do with this?
In 2012 I’ll explore in detail my view of the territory as we explore the “inside job” of transition, including the “how to” as much as that can be said. Here enough to suggest that the challenges are very real, that it’s normal to have them, that they are individual in the way they show up, uniquely ours.
I’ll add that a friendly and curious attitude toward them helps too. So does “the key”, making our own actions when we must, for the good of the whole.