Pre-instructions for Self-help Exercises |
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Aah, to have all the dollars I spent on self-help books, workshops and seminars in a coffer before me now. Like Scrooge McDuck I could dive into the golden oasis and splash around for hours.
But I can't. That money is spent and I must be content only with "the gold" I've received from all that stuff. Should be enough, right? My answer and my instructions will require a little self-revelation. I was one screwed up kid: depresseion, with obsessive-compulsive traits, anxiety, commitment phobia (I have references for this) and more. "Jumpy" was my middle name. My ever doubting mind could find no bottom and feared what was down there anyway. For instance, I wondered what was beautiful about the beautiful and whether warm was really warmer than cold or if it just felt that way, useful stuff like that. In the Middle Ages I could have found a job counting angels on pins but a cruel universe had birthed me centuries too late for that or for a great deal of gainful employability.. Trust me, it was awful. I had a burning need to understand, change and grow, perhaps a desirethat you understand good reader? Desperation makes one a seeker, after all, and the seeker is sure that s/he doesn't have what s/he craves already. But when you have a burning need to know and advance yourself along the path to happiness, you try and cool off that fire whatever way you can. You're a sucker for all brands of snake oil, for instance, and the promise of true love. You drink it deep night and day. You kiss scores of what turn out to be frogs as you search for enlightenment and the fulfillment of your heart's desire. Kissing a real frog, by the way, is an excellent thing. A southern friend tells me there's a recommendation down there to eat one every day before breakfast; that way, whatever happens later will be an improvement. (I say kiss but don't eat them. The amphibian population is under severe strain and they don't need bliss-ninnies jumping them at every turn.) Still the admonition to work with the hard stuff is good. As Zorba said that "Life is trouble. Only death is not. To be alive is to undo your belt and look for trouble." Zorba knew how to live! If you go seeking trouble instead of bliss and deal with it when you find it, you'll be living and you'll get all the self-help you need, much of it in the form of instructive whacks on the side of the head. If you prefer to avoid trouble, you can sit in your rooms and read self-help books. Are you still reading? Good 'cause now I can tell you what I really think. It's probably what you really think. You don't need books, workshops and seminars. You can self-improve till the rapture and stay blissfully - or oh-so-painfully - stuck. Or you can get unstuck in a heartbeat. You could find your true devotion while looking outside the window. Or you could attend a seminar or read a book and get the message better than the messenger! HahaHa, wouldn't that be nice! Isn't what we understand sooner or later that we don't need anything else? That everything's already available and it's no big deal. Along the way to your enlightenment, you might as well do a few things, check them out. I think a little self-help in moderate doses is a good thing, very helpful. Good personal medicine usually takes effect quite quickly and clearly. In other words if if it's not very good for you, it's not very good for you. Does that make sense? So try something, something with some heart, and digest it thoroughly. Of course that's not what I did for 30 or 40 years myself, but I'm wiser now. Honest. Or go and do an exercise for the hell of it, already. See what happens. -- Ready? OK, you're almost there! Please choose one of these three options Option 1 Thanks for your inspiring pointers to the fulfillment of my cosmic destiny; I want nothing to do with it. Send me to the Church of Texas Hold'em. Option 2 Back to the page on creating my own transition story Option 3 Click here to try some exercises that might be helpful for working on our stuff |
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