Here's a suggested transition support group format. A few additional suggestions are posted below.
The meeting
1. Welcome by
Facilitator (a rotating role open to all)
2. Facilitator introduces
each part of the meeting with a sentence or two so all are on
the same page
3. Facilitator reads the Purpose and
Guidelines below (or asks someone to read each)
4. Go-round 1. Internal
Updates Members let each other know what they're
working on “inside” to live with greater strength and integrity, and how
things are going with it. No feedback please.
5. Go-round 2. External Updates
Members let each other know what they've been doing in the community /
world (for personal gain or social good, or both - mdest or grand both
OK) and how things are going with that. No feedback please.
6. Go-round 3. Moving Forward Commit to an action
small or big that you intend to do for the next meeting. More informal
and if the speaker's OK with it, others can jump in and out.
7.
Closing. Participants express
appreciations for what anyone has shared or done; everyone doesn't need
to speak. Facilitator checks if everyone’s finished.
8. Next
meeting date and new roles chosen if needed
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Here are the suggested Purpose and Guidelines
Purpose (Suggest
you read
this and the guidelines at the
beginning of the meeting to "get on the same page")
We come
together to support
ourselves and each other in being stronger, more resourceful and
resilient in a time of change and transformation. We hope to make a
difference to ourselves and be a catalyst for positive change locally
and in the world.
Guidelines
- ·
Please speak simply and directly and keep comments
on topic.
- · In the first go-round, the Inner Update one, let
others know what you're working on
“inside,” personally or internally to live with greater strength and
integrity and how things are going with that. In
this and the next go-round, don't offer feedback to others in order to
allow
them maximum space and permission to say what they want. Listen deeply
instead and speak your truth when it's your turn. You can raise your
hand as an indication of "me too" if you strongly agree with something.
- · In the second or Outer Update go-round, let
others know what you are doing out there in the world, your projects
great or very small, and how things
are going with it. They don't have to be any special kind of project.
They could be very small and personal (e.g., organizing a birthday party
for a niece), or large, starting a neighborhood garden. In both the
Inner and Outer updates, others
are specifically asked not to interrupt or make “helpful suggestions.”
This helps the speaker have the space and safety to say what they wish.
- · In the third or Moving Forward go-round, say what you want. State a “next step,” something you'd like
to make happen either internally or externally. This thing could be
very very small, (a phone call, look something up but
something). If you want comments or feedback on how you might move
forward, speak up and ask for them here; and if you don't want any help
at this point, say that too so others know what's wanted.
- · Be aware that the group isn't a therapy session or a
salon for philosophical disputation; rather it's a way to connect more
richly with yourself, peers, and perhaps, collective mind.
- · Please respect everyone’s point of view even if your
disagree with it - it's not your business. Allow
others to speak without interruption. The Listener is tasked with
bringing the group back on track if someone's is way off topic.
Three suggested rolesThree roles - Facilitator, Listener, and Liaison -
are suggested, to be rotated each meeting or each quarter. The
Facilitator introduces the meeting and M.C.'s us through each part with a sentence or two. The Listener listens to how well we're listening, lets
us know if we're off-topic, and is a reminder to us that listening is as
important as speaking, The Liaison person reminds us of time and venue
of upcoming meeting, and rents meeting space if necessary and connects
with other open space developers (via any conference calls, for example) or ensures someone else does.
Getting started
Find at least three other people who are willing to meet bi-weekly
for three months and then make changes as need be. Some tips on inviting others are here. The
three months are to get some regularity and energy going. If three months (six meetings or so) seems too much then meet for at
least three so it's crystal clear to all about what it is you're changing.
It's
good if you can meet every two weeks on the same day and time. Same
place if possible. During sharing rounds, let people take turns as the
spirit moves them; no need to go in order.If you'd like to stay in touch around transition support groups, be sure to sign up for
updates the box at the top right. I really encourage and welcome your participation in starting or being in a local transition support group.
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(Andrew).